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problems may be more common amongst men than women, but
they affect members of both genders. Failure to deal with
anger constructively often has serious consequences in
terms of family and love relationships, personal health,
and dealings with bosses and co-workers. For some, this
reflects negative training from childhood, having been
the target of someone else's destructive anger growing
up. For others, it can be the result of unmanageable stress
or an acute life crisis in current circumstances. Some
people are equally afraid of their own and other people's
angry feelings.
However, it is possible to resolve
this issue through a combination of behavioural and cognitive
techniques and the therapeutic process of self-examination.
Because anger is often a defence against other, more
vulnerable emotions—for
instance, fear or grief—people find that when they know
how to deal with their anger, they are better able to deal
with all their feelings. Anger has the same value as any
emotion and is an inevitable response to certain aspects
of life, including intimate relationships. Through learning
anger management, people can achieve deeper and more satisfying
relationships in all areas of their lives.
Kenneth Demsky worked for five years
in one of the most demanding areas of anger management:
with male batterers and their wives and girlfriends in
a state programme addressing domestic violence in Texas
, U.S.A . During that time he was involved in re-shaping
the therapy component of the programme, re-writing the
workbook and making presentations to women's shelters.
Since then, He has helped many men and women from varied
backgrounds and facing different challenges learn to manage
their anger in healthy ways. |
